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Héloïse

French scholar and religious figure Héloise secretly married Peter Abelard and later served as abbess of a convent that he founded; after their deaths, people discovered their letters, noted for their eloquence and emotional intensity.

born in perhaps 1098

The French logician and philosopher eventually then prevailed upon this lady of great learning, mistress, and later wife to wear a habit of a postulant. She rose to prioress eventually of the Paraclete.


“What cannot letters inspire? They have souls; they can speak; they have in them all that force which expresses the transports of the heart....”
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“God knows I never sought anything in you except yourself. I wanted simply you, nothing of yours.”
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“Would that thy love, beloved, had less trust in me, that it might be more anxious!”
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“[A]s though mindful of the wife of Lot, who looked back from behind him, thou deliveredst me first to the sacred garments and monastic profession before thou gavest thyself to God. And for that in this one thing thou shouldst have had little trust in me I vehemently grieved and was ashamed. For I (God [knows]) would without hesitation precede or follow thee to the Vulcanian fires according to thy word. For not with me was my heart, but with thee. But now, more than ever, if it be not with thee, it is nowhere. For without thee it cannot anywhere exist.”
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“[I]t is not by being richer or more powerful that a man becomes better; one is a matter of fortune, the other of virtue. Nor should she deem herself other than venal who weds a rich man rather than a poor, and desires more things in her husband than himself. Assuredly, whomsoever this concupiscence leads into marriage deserves payment rather than affection.”
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“[I]f the name of wife appears more sacred and more valid, sweeter to me is ever the word friend, or, if thou be not ashamed, concubine ... And thou thyself wert not wholly unmindful of that ... [as in the narrative of thy misfortunes] thou hast not disdained to set forth sundry reasons by which I tried to dissuade thee from our marriage, from an ill-starred bed; but wert silent as to many, in which I preferred love to wedlock, freedom to a bond. I call God to witness, if Augustus, ruling over the whole world, were to deem me worthy of the honour of marriage, and to confirm the whole world to me, to be ruled by me forever, dearer to me and of greater dignity would it seem to be called thy concubine than his empress.”
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