Jed Rubenfeld

“Her nevroz, kişi için bir dindir ve din, insanoğlunun evrensel nevrozudur. Şu hiç şüphesiz doğru: Tanrı'ya atfettiğimiz özellikler ve güçler, önce bebekken ve sonra da küçük çocukken taşıdığımız korkuları ve dileklerimizi yansıtıyor.”

“All it takes is instinct.”

“Satisfying a savage instinct is incomparably more pleasurable than satisfying a civilized one.”

“Unhappiness is caused when we cannot let go of our memories.”

“No man can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips.”

“The most exquisite joy is a sting to the heart, and love -- love is a crisis of the soul.”

“A woman is at her greatest peril in the presence of a beautiful man.”

“A woman's love for a man is half animal passion and half hate. The more a woman loves a man, the more she hates him.”

“I am the deepest of unbelievers. Every neurosis is a religion to its owner and religions is the universal neurosis of mankind. This is much beyond doubt: the characteristics we attribute to God reflect the fears and wishes we first feel as infants and as small children. Anyone who does not see that much cannot have understood the first thing about human psychology, If it is religion you are looking for, do not follow me.”

“The ways of happiness and meaning are not the same. To find happiness, a man need only live in the moment; he need only live for the moment. But if he wants meaning—the meaning of his dreams, his secrets, his life—a man must reinhabit his past, however dark, and live for the future, however uncertain. Thus nature dangles happiness and meaning before us all, insisting only that we choose between them.”

“THERE IS NO mystery to happiness. Unhappy men are alike. Some wound they suffered long ago, some wish denied, some blow to pride, some kindling spark of love put out by scorn--or worse, indifference--cleaves to them, or they to it, and so they live each day within a shroud of yesterdays. The happy man does not look back. He doesn't look ahead. He lives in the present.”

“Wrong way to think about it. Don't try to figure it out all at once.”

“The pity of it was that this discovery, if such it was, now seemed so stale, so profitless to me. What good was it? What good did thinking ever do?”

“For society, marriage is undoubtedly beneficial. But the burdens of civilized morality are too heavy for many to bear.”

“On certain social occasions, otherwise dignified and serious men will begin behaving unconsciously like players on a stage, performing as they talk, acting as they gesticulate. The cause is invariably a woman.”

“Disgust is so reassuring; it feels like a moral proof.”

“I know he is--sensitive--on some points, Detective, but you must bear in mind how hard it is for an honest man to do his work in relative obscurity, while dishonest men attain wealth and renown. That is why corruption is so pernicious. It breaks the will of good men.”