Merle Shain

“ Whether the melon falls on the knife or the knife falls on the melon, it's the melon that suffers." And so it would appear to me”

“It has been said that a lot of women of our generation "grew up to be the men they always wanted to marry”

“Until you divest yourself of the notion that you are a collection of needs, an empty vessel that someone else must fill up, there will be no safe place to harbor yourself, no safe shore to reach. As long as you think mostly of getting, you will have nothing real to give.”

“Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same”

“Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.”

“The people in your life are like the pillars on your porch.Sometimes they hold you up, and sometimes they lean on you.Sometimes it's enough to know they are standing by.”