“Childhood and adulthood were not factors of age but states of mind.”

“Childhood is for spoiling adulthood.”

“At the most basic level, therefore, secure attachments in both childhood and adulthood are established by two individual's sharing a nonverbal focus on the energy flow (emotional states) and a verbal focus on the information-processing aspects (representational processes of memory and narrative) of mental life. The matter of the mind matters for secure attachments.”

“Age is a state of mind.”

“Families start out, most of the time, with unconditional acceptance of one another. That acceptance starts in childhood and continues into adulthood. Somewhere in there, between childhood and adulthood, the ability to distinguish right versus wrong is born.”

“Past a certain point it is not interesting to think about childhood as the central drama and adulthood as its reprise.”