“Perhaps we were friends first and lovers second.But then perhaps this is what lovers are.”

“They say a woman always remembers her first lover with affection; but perhaps she does not always remember him.”

“For whom is the funhouse fun? Perhaps for lovers. For Ambrose it is a place of fear and confusion. ”

“Even mosochists need lovers. What would a girl like me do without someone like you? Perhaps everyone is good for someone.”

“And then the sly arch-lover that he was, he said the subtlest thing of all: that the lover was nearer the divine than the beloved; for the god was in the one but not in the other - perhaps the tenderest, most mocking thought that ever was thought, and source of all the guile and secret bliss the lover knows.”

“When we fall in love at a glance, the question we should ask ourselves (and this would apply to both men and women) is, What is it that we long for? Or perhaps, What are we lacking so that we can turn life in the direction we want? Creativity? Confidence? Authority? Recklessness? Irresponsibility? Or even darkness? Perhaps the lover is the outlaw in ourselves we don't quite have the nerve to claim. (p. 34)”