“Homophobia and the closet are allies. Like an unhealthy co-dependent relationship they need each other to survive. One plays the victim living in fear and shame while the other plays the persecutor policing what is ‘normal’. The only way to dismantle homophobia is for every gay man and lesbian in the world to come out and live authentic lives. Once they realise how normal we are and see themselves in us….the controversy is over.”

“Everyone pretends to be normal and be your best friend, but underneath, everyone is living some other life you don't know about, and if only we had a camera on us at all times, we could go and watch each other's tapes and find out what each of us was really like.”

“There is something fundamentally wrong with the way we normally live our lives and we'd sort of like to find out what it is.”

“The roles we play in each other's lives are only as powerful as the trust and connection between us--the protection, safety, and caring we are willing to share.”

“['non-white' gay men] are run over at the intersection of racism and homophobia”

“Living inside me is a straight guy, a lesbian, a gay man, a straight chick, and a couple of bisexuals and they all get an equal amount of play time.”