“Because if you are the mess, you can clean it. Improvement doesn't depend on others.”

“...when I betray myself, others' faults become immediately inflated in my heart and mind. I begin to 'horribilize' others. That is, I begin to make them out to be worse than they really are. And I do this because the worse they are, the more justified I feel.”

“Have you ever been in a conflict with someone who thought he was wrong. If you are not wrong, then you will be willing to consider how you might be mistaken.”

“People whose hearts are at war toward others can't consider others' objections and challenges enough to be able to find a way through them.”

“If you see people of a particular race or culture as objects, your view of them is racist, whatever your color or lack of color or you power or lack of power.”

“always remember that it is progress, not perfection, you should be looking for.”

“In every moment...we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects. They either count like we do or they don't.”