“I'm not saying people should not be held accountable for their hurtful behavior. But the only thing blaming does is to keep the focus off you. It means you aren't dealing with your problems.”

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find withanother, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not changeyou. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when youare looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness orfrustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty aboutsomething by blaming him, but you won't succeed in changing whatever itis about you that is making you unhappy.”

“Books say: She did this because. Life says: She did this. Books are where things are explained to you; life is where things aren't. I'm not surprised some people prefer books. Books make sense of life. The only problem is that the lives they make sense of are other people's lives, never your own.”

“Your family should be there. Your family should always be there. What does it say about you if they aren't?”

“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.”

“People say you should give until it hurts. I say you should give until it stops hurting. Know what I mean?”