“Dominator culture has tried to keep us all afraid, to make us choose safety instead of risk, sameness instead of diversity. Moving through that fear, finding out what connects us, revelling in our differences; this is the process that brings us closer, that gives us a world of shared values, of meaningful community.”
In this quote, bell hooks discusses the concept of "dominator culture" and its impact on society. She highlights how this culture instills fear in individuals, leading them to prioritize safety and conformity over taking risks and celebrating diversity. By acknowledging and moving through this fear, she believes that people can come together and form meaningful connections based on shared values and a sense of community. This quote speaks to the importance of breaking free from societal constraints and embracing differences in order to foster unity and understanding among individuals.
In today's society, bell hooks' words still ring true as we continue to navigate a world dominated by fear and conformity. The idea of moving through fear, embracing our differences, and connecting with one another is crucial in fostering a sense of unity and belonging in our communities. By breaking free from the constraints of dominator culture, we can create a world where diversity is celebrated and meaningful connections are formed.
bell hooks encourages us to challenge dominator culture by moving through fear and embracing diversity. By connecting with others and celebrating our differences, we can create a meaningful and inclusive community based on shared values.
bell hooks encourages us to move beyond fear and embrace diversity in order to create a meaningful community. Reflect on the following questions to deepen your understanding and personal connection to this idea:
“Dominator culture teaches all of us that the core of our identity is defined by the will to dominate and control others. We are taught that this will to dominate is more biologically hardwired in males than in females. In actuality, dominator culture teaches us that we are all natural-born killers but that males are more able to realize the predator role. In the dominator model the pursuit of external power, the ability to manipulate and control others, is what matters most. When culture is based on a dominator model, not only will it be violent but it will frame all relationships as power struggles.”
“spirits bring contentment for a time carry us closer to the sacred moving through bitterness our yearning to hold on to moments of ecstasy where we imagine we hear clearly destiny calling”
“Beloved community is formed not by the eradication of difference but by its affirmation, by each of us claiming the identities and cultural legacies that shape who we are and how we live in the world.”
“We fear that evaluating our needs and then carefully choosing partners will reveal that there is no one for us to love. Most of us prefer to have a partner who is lacking than no partner at all. What becomes apparent is that we may be more interested in finding a partner than in knowing love.”
“The time has come to tell the truth. Again. There is no love without justice. Men and women who cannot be just deny themselves and everyone they choose to be intimate with the freedom to know mutual love. If we remain unable to imagine a world where love can be recognized as a unifying principle that can lead us to seek and use power wisely, then we will remain wedded to a culture of domination that requires us to choose power over love.”
“To build community requires vigilant awareness of the work we must continually do to undermine all the socialization that leads us to behave in ways that perpetuate domination.”