“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”

“We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can't use shame to change ourselves or others.”

“You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.”

“Shame works like the zoom lens on a camera. When we are feeling shame, the camera is zoomed in tight and all we see is our flawed selves, alone and struggling.(page 68)”

“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.”

“The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.”

“If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.”