“We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can't use shame to change ourselves or others.”

“For some reason, we are truly convinced that if we criticize ourselves, the criticism will lead to change. If we are harsh, we believe we will end up being kind. If we shame ourselves, we believe we end up loving ourselves. It has never been true, not for a moment, that shame leads to love. Only love leads to love.”

“We must remember that we cannot change others, we can only change ourselves.”

“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”

“When we seek to change others to suit our desires we engage in folly, but when we seek to improve ourselves, as an example to others we can change the world.”

“Art critic! Is that a profession? When I think we are stupid enough, we painters, to solicit those people's compliments and to put ourselves into their hands! What shame! Should we even accept that they talk about our work?”