“You know the typical crowd, Wow, it’s Friday night, what are you going to do? Just sit there? Well, yeah. Because there’s nothing out there. It’s stupidity. Stupid people mingling with stupid people. Let them stupidify themselves. I’ve never been bothered with the need to rush out into the night. That’s all. Sorry for all the millions, but I’ve never been lonely. I like myself. I’m the best form of entertainment I have.”
In this quote, Charles Bukowski reflects on the typical Friday night scene where people feel the need to go out and socialize. He criticizes this behavior, dismissing it as "stupidity" and choosing instead to stay in and enjoy his own company. This quote highlights Bukowski's preference for solitude and self-awareness, emphasizing his contentment with being alone and finding fulfillment within himself.
In today's fast-paced world filled with social media and constant connectivity, Charles Bukowski's perspective on solitude and self-contentment may seem even more relevant. The pressure to constantly be out socializing and seeking external forms of entertainment can be overwhelming, but Bukowski's words remind us of the value of introspection and self-appreciation. In a society that oftentimes equates busyness with success, his words serve as a powerful reminder to prioritize self-care and personal happiness above all else.
In this quote from Charles Bukowski, he expresses his disinterest in the typical Friday night crowd and the need to rush out into the night. Bukowski values his own company and finds himself to be the best form of entertainment.
As we reflect on the words of Charles Bukowski, it's important to consider our own attitudes towards socializing and self-entertainment. Here are some questions to ponder:
Do you find yourself feeling pressured to go out and socialize on Friday nights, or are you comfortable with enjoying your own company?
Have you ever experienced feelings of loneliness or the need to constantly be surrounded by others? How do these feelings compare to Bukowski's perspective?
In what ways do you entertain yourself when you are alone? Do you feel fulfilled by these solo activities, or do you prioritize social interactions for entertainment?
How do you define self-love and self-entertainment, and how does this relate to Bukowski's assertion that he is the best form of entertainment he has?
Reflect on a time when you chose to spend a night alone rather than going out with others. How did you feel during that time, and did it contribute to your overall well-being and contentment?
“I've never been lonely. I've been in a room -- I've felt suicidal. I've been depressed. I've felt awful -- awful beyond all -- but I never felt that one other person could enter that room and cure what was bothering me...or that any number of people could enter that room. In other words, loneliness is something I've never been bothered with because I've always had this terrible itch for solitude. It's being at a party, or at a stadium full of people cheering for something, that I might feel loneliness. I'll quote Ibsen, "The strongest men are the most alone." I've never thought, "Well, some beautiful blonde will come in here and give me a fuck-job, rub my balls, and I'll feel good." No, that won't help. You know the typical crowd, "Wow, it's Friday night, what are you going to do? Just sit there?" Well, yeah. Because there's nothing out there. It's stupidity. Stupid people mingling with stupid people. Let them stupidify themselves. I've never been bothered with the need to rush out into the night. I hid in bars, because I didn't want to hide in factories. That's all. Sorry for all the millions, but I've never been lonely. I like myself. I'm the best form of entertainment I have. Let's drink more wine!”
“Sometimes I’ll be talking to someone, and I’ll be like ‘Yeah, I’ve been really lonely lately’ and they’ll be like ‘Well we should hang out!’ and I’m like ‘No, that’s not what I meant. That’s not what I meant at all.”
“I’m not going to do anything stupid. And even if what I plan is risky and insane, it’s a well-thought-out level of stupidity.”
“There’s a pause so yawning I can’t help but think about what it would be like to lean in and kiss her, but if I’m getting the signals wrong then I’m about to destroy the best run we’ve had all evening. It’s been at least ten minutes since I’ve done or said anything stupid.”
“I think it’s important to have a good hard failure when you're young. I learned a lot out of that. Because it makes you kind of aware of what can happen to you. Because of it I’ve never had any fear in my whole life when we’ve been near collapse and all of that. I’ve never been afraid. I’ve never had the feeling I couldn’t walk out and get a job doing something.”