“This isn't about love and hate," Helen says. It's about control. People don't sit down and read a poem to kill their child. They just want the child tosleep. They just want to dominate. No matter how much you love someone, you still want to have your own way. The masochist bullies the sadist intoaction. The most passive person is actually an aggressor.”

“No matter how much you love someone, you still want to have you own way.”

“Your folks are god, you love them and you want to make them happy but you still want to make up your own rules.”

“Nevertheless, if you ask me, most people have children just as their own enthusiasm about life begins to wane. A child allows us to revisit the excitement we once felt about, well... everything. A generation later, our grandkids bump up our enthusiasm yet again. Reproducing is a kind of booster shot to keep us loving life.”

“There are worse things you can do to the people you love than kill them. The regular way is just to watch the world do it. Just read the newspaper.”

“There are a lot of things we don't want to know about the people we love.”

“That old saying, about how you always kill the thing you love, well, it works both ways. And it does work both ways.”