“I was always of themindset that whatever will be, will be. We can only just try to control ourown lives, that because our lives are so hopelessly entangled in thechoices of others, we can never have full control over our destiny or fateor purpose or whatever you want to call it. The choices we make defineus, of course, but so do the choices of everyone around us whether weknow them or not. Instead of contemplating what-if scenarios, I alwaysjust tried to accept things.”

“Because our birth mothers made a choice for us that dramatically changed the course of our lives and over which we had no control, many of us have a foundational belief (often unconscious) that we don't have the right to choose our own course in life. We feel instead that we are at the mercy of others.”

“The unusual thing about new relationships is that they innately want to become grown-up relationships as fast as they can. They do this by pulling you to learn everything you can about each other, even though the most exciting part about a new relationship is the mystery of who the other person is.”

“Whatever controls us is our lord. The person who seeks power is controlled by power. The person who seeks acceptance is controlled by acceptance. We do not control ourselves. We are controlled by the lord of our lives.”

“There is always the possibility of a better life with every change that we face, but sometimes we have to look hard for it.”

“That’s what you taught me - we don’t have to accept destiny or Des Tiny. We can create our own future, all of us. We have the power to rule our lives - we just have to make the choice to use it.”

“The fact is that no species has ever had such wholesale control over everything on earth, living or dead, as we now have. That lays upon us, whether we like it or not, an awesome responsibility. In our hands now lies not only our own future, but that of all other living creatures with whom we share the earth.”