“being with someone for over a year can meanthat you love them … but it can also mean you’re trapped.”

“Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same”

“If someone loves you for what you can do then it's flattering, but why do you love them? If someone loves you for who you are then they have to know you, which means you have to know them.”

“Loving someone is different from being in love with someone. You can hate someone you're in love with”

“If you hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.”

“I get the feeling you'd rather pine over someone you can never possibly be with than try being with someone you can.”