“Transference is essentially a compulsion to return to our past in order to clear up emotionally backlogged business.”

“We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.”

“The opposite of interpersonal trust is not mistrust. It is despair. This is because we have given up on believing that trustworthiness and fulfillment are possible from others. We have lost our hope in our fellow humans.”

“Our higher needs include making full use of our gifts, finding and fulfilling our calling, being loved and cherished just for ourselves, and being in relationships that honor all of these. Such needs are fulfilled in an atmosphere of the five A’s by which love is shown: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.”

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”

“The challenge is to find our destiny in exactly what we are refusing to engage in.”

“Our tears are precious, necessary, and part of what make us such endearing creatures.”