“The hideousness {the author] sees is the reflection of himself, and of the automatic meat-lust with which he approaches another individual…Even the most “beautiful” woman is still a human creature. If {the author] approached her as such, as a being instead of as a piece of lurid meat, he would have no horrors afterwards.(in 1924, writing in response to a misogynistic article titled, 'The Ugliness of Women'.)”

D.H. Lawrence

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