“Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen.”

“We are not disturbed by what happens to us, but by our thoughts about what happens to us.”

“Demand not that things happen as you wish, but wish them to happen as they do, and you will go on well.”

“People are not disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them.”

“Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our actions. The things in our control are by nature free, unrestrained, unhindered; but those not in our control are weak, slavish, restrained, belonging to others. Remember, then, that if you suppose that things which are slavish by nature are also free, and that what belongs to others is your own, then you will be hindered. You will lament, you will be disturbed, and you will find fault both with gods and men. But if you suppose that only to be your own which is your own, and what belongs to others such as it really is, then no one will ever compel you or restrain you. Further, you will find fault with no one or accuse no one. You will do nothing against your will. No one will hurt you, you will have no enemies, and you not be harmed.”

“Don't seek to have events happen as you wish, but wish them to happen as they do happen, and all will be well with you.”

“Men are not afraid of things, but of how they view them.”