“It is easier to find guides, someone to tell you what to do, than someone to be with you in a discerning, prayerful companionship as you work it out yourself. This is what spiritual direction is.”
“Sympathy is what you have for someone after they die, pity you have for someone when they don't have a date to the biggest dance of the year. Empathy is what I do to you when you judge me. Envy is having pity on yourself. Can you discern the rest for yourself?”
“You must think for yourself, what you must do. If someone tells you, then you are not trying.-An-mei”
“And what is the right woman, the right man? Someone who wants to go in the same direction as you do, someone who is compatible with your views and your values-- emotionally, physically, economically, spiritually.”
“What is a friend? I will tell you...it is someone with whom you dare to be yourself.”
“When you care more if someone else lives than you do about yourself- is that what [love is]?”