“Kids don’t do what their parents say-they do what they see their parents do. So who was to blame here?”

“Experience is the only teacher,” Hey-Soos says. “Even if I could have told you, it would have been a lecture. Why do you think kids don’t listen to their parents, or people don’t leave churches and do what the preacher tells them?”

“Losers blame their parents; Failures blame their kids.”

“That's what friends do: they notice things. They're there for each other. They see what parents don't.”

“But feel what happens in the soul when you imagine children saying to their parents, "What you gave me, first of all, wasn't the right thing, and secondly, it wasn't enough. You still owe me." What do children have from their parents when they feel that way? Nothing. And what do the parents have from their children? Also nothing. Such children cannot separate from their parents. Their accusations and demands tie them to their parents so that, although they are bound to their parents, the children have no parents. They then feel empty, needy and weak.This is the second Order of Love, that children take what their parents give in addition to life as it comes.”

“Parenting is really just a matter of tracking, of hoping your kids do not get so far ahead you can no longer see their next moves. ”