“We are often told during times of bereavement that time heals all wounds. That's crap. In truth, you are devastated, you mourn, you cry to the point where you think you'll never stop - and then you reach a stage where the survival instinct takes over. You stop. You simply won't or can't let yourself "go there" anymore because the pain was too great. You block. You deny. But you don't really heal.”

“It may take little time to get where you want to be, but if you pause and think for a moment, you will notice that you are no longer where you were. Do not stop—keep going.”

“Healing takes time, and its duration cannot be controlled.Some people are angry with us, or we are angry with them.Some people leave us, or we leave them.All this hurts, and takes time to heal.We don't have power over the amount of time it takes to heal all these grievances.Yet, no matter how powerless we are over the time it takes to heal, we do have all the power that truly matters.And this is the power to say YES to Healing.This is the greatest power possible, for when we say YES to healing, time disappears. And then there is only the YES, which is the power of choice to heal.Time is always filled with grievances, because through time people come and go from our life, and we come and go from theirs.When time ends, Healing begins.And time can end now, if you say YES to Healing.And if you say YES to Healing, you are with everyone and everyone is with you, unconditionally, right now, and forever. Hence, I do say YES to Healing, and, if you wish,you can also join me,for I love to Heal with you.”

“The worst pain ... isn't the pain you feel at the time, it's the pain you feel later on when there's nothing you can do about it, They say that time heals all wounds, But we never live long enough to test that theory ...”

“I mostly want to remind her of the recipes of healing, and give her my own made-on-the spot remedy for the easing of her pain. I tell her, “Get a pen. Stop crying so you can write this down and start working on it tonight.” My remedy is long. But the last item on the list says: “When you wake up and find yourself living someplace where there is nobody you love and trust, no community, it is time to leave town – to pack up and go (you can even go tonight). And where you need to go is any place where there are arms that can hold you, that will not let you go.”

“Healing's not always natural, she says. Healing's not always the way a body wants to go. Sometimes the body wants to run. Sometimes it can't think of anything but what might stop the pain. And though stopping the pain's important if you want a body healing, it isn't the whole. Sometimes that just keeps you broke.”