“It is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than to feel yourself into a new way of acting.”

“It is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking, than it is to think yourself into a new way of acting.”

“It's easier to act your way into a new way of thinking, than think your way into a new way of acting.”

“Zelda Fitzgerald, languishing in an asylum, drew a picture of a salamander and wrote: "I believed I was a salamander, and it seems I am nothing but an impediment." We have all tried to be salamanders, but nobody really survives the fire. The mystery is that some get burned worse than others; some get burned in ways that are liveable, and some do not.”

“You can overcome the things that are done to you, but you cannot escape the things that you have done. Here is the truth: It matters, what you do at war. It matters more than you ever want to know. Because countries, like people, have collective consciences and memories and souls, and the violence we deliver in the name of our nation is pooled like sickly tar at the bottom of who we are. The soldiers who don't die for us come home again. They bring with them the killers they became on our national behalf, and sit with their polluted memories and broken emotions in our homes and schools and temples. We may wish it were not so, but action amounts to identity. We become what we do.You can tell yourself all the stories you want, but you can't leave your actions over there. You can't build a wall and expect to live on the other side of memory. All of the poison seeps back into our soil.”

“Renewal requires opening yourself up to new ways of thinking and feeling”

“You cannot think your way into a new way of acting, but you can act your way into a new way of thinking.”