“What a terrible thing it is to wound someone you really care for and to do it so unconsciously.”

“And so a person can never promise to love someone forever because you never know what might come up, what terrible thing the person you love might do.”

“He really did not care whether he survived or not, so long as it rendered him unconscious and absolved him of responsibility.”

“... but if I've learned one thing, it's this: forgiveness is crucial. If you can't forgive someone you're mad at, that anger will poison you. You have to learn to let it go"... "people have reasons for doing the things that they do, especially when they care about you. You may not always understand what they are, but if you can try to understand the person then you might see that they really care, despite what happened."pg 100 Meredith to Vlad”

“How can someone so wonderful do something so terrible?”

“In some ways the goals of teaching and writing are the same. You hope to connect to someone else, to make them care about what you care about. So that the things which matter, the things that matter to you, matter to them.”