“What we think often does more to influence the nature of our relationships than what we say or do.”

“Often, what people don't say tell you more about the nature of their insecurities than what they do say.”

“We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.”

“What we see and hear is what we think about. What we think about is what we feel. What we feel influences our reactions. Reactions become habits and it is our habits that determine our destiny.”

“Our memory has no guarantees at all, and yet we bow more often than is objectively justified to the compulsion to believe what it says.”

“You see, Novelka, in an odd sort of way, some of our strongest relationships are with people who have died. We miss the person, we think of them, we wonder what they would want us to do, how they would want us to act. Though they are not here, they still strongly influence our lives. And so we go on loving them, sometimes even more, when they are gone.”