“In order to see, I have to be willing to be seen.”

“Being myself includes taking risks with myself, taking risks on new behavior, trying new ways of 'being myself', so that I can see who it is I want to be.”

“I sometimes react to making a mistake as if I have betrayed myself. My fear of making a mistake seems to be based on the hidden assumption that I am potentially perfect and that if I can just be very careful I will not fall from heaven. But a 'mistake' is a declaration of the way I am, a jolt to the way I intend, a reminder I am not dealing with the facts. When I have listened to my mistakes I have grown.”

“All my life, I have made it complicated, but it is so simple. I love when I love. And when I love, I am myself.”

“I don't need a "reason" to be happy. I don't have to consult the future to know how happy I feel now.”

“perfectionism is a slow death. if everything were to turn out just like i would want it to, just like i would plan for it to, then i would never experience anything new; my life would be an endless repetition of stale successes. when i make a mistake i experience something unexpected.... when i have listened to my mistakes i have grown.”

“What an absurd amount of energy I have been wasting all my life trying to find out how things 'really are', when all the time they weren't.”