“I'm talking about an intense, private bonding between a dominant personality and a submissive one. Between two people who have chosen to make a loving gift to one another of themselves...not just of their bodies, but of the parts of themselves that they hold back from the rest of the world. The control dynamic in a relationship like that may look uneven, but the power is really quite...balanced”

“True submission comes from a place of strength, ... because submitting means choosing to make yourself vulnerable to another person. It takes real guts to do that. It isn't weakness at all - exactly the opposite, in fact.”

“I finally came to realize is that a fair part of achieving happiness comes from understanding your own programming. And a fair amount of getting what you want from other people comes from understanding theirs.”

“If I have a care in the world, I have a gift to give. ”

“The Socratic teacher turns his students away from himself and back onto themselves; he hides in paradoxes, makes himself inaccessible. The intimate relationship between student and teacher here is not one of submission, but of a contest for truth.”

“Love between two people can last a long time if the people love themselves some, and are ready to give love to another person.”

“...I'm trying to tell ya something bout my life,,maybe give me insight between black and white,,and the best thing you'd ever done for me is to help me take my life less seriously--it's only LIFE afterall...”