“We can only learn to love by loving.”

“Learning, and especially unlearning, can take place only in the absence of defensiveness.... [W]e can drop our defenses only when we love and are loved.”

“One of the many quotes on love..."Love can come only with time and sentience. We learn it as we learn language--and some never learn it well. Love is like a tool, though it is not a tool; something strange and wonderful to use, difficult to master, and mysterious in its provenance.”

“It is only by loving others that we can learn to live; living is rare nowadays...most people survive; that is all.”

“Criticism is an act of love. We can never learn those people we love, but we can learn about them in such ways as to perceive more clearly that unfathomable, mysterious core that is the source of their beauty.”

“We have all known the long loneliness and we have learned that the only solution is love and that love comes with community.”