“Love is an intervention.Why do we not choose it?” (205)”

“I love her.""Then you do not love the Lord.""Yes, I love both of them.""You cannot." "I do.”

“If we had the courage to love we would not so value these acts of war.”

“I have written about love obsessively, forensically, and I know/knew it as the highest value. I loved God of course, in the early days, and God loved me. That was something. And I loved animals and nature. And poetry. People were the problem. How do you love another person? How do you trust another person to love you?”

“True art, when it happens to us, challenges the 'I' that we are. A love-parallel would be just; falling in love challenges the reality to which we lay claim, part of the pleasure of love and part of its terror, is the world turned upside down. We want and we don't want, the cutting edge, the upset, the new views. Mostly we work hard at taming our emotional environment just as we work hard at taming our aesthetic environment. We already have tamed our physical environment. And are we happy with all this tameness? Are you?”

“The probability of separate worlds meeting is very small. The lure of it is immense. We send starships. We fall in love.”

“Destiny is a worrying concept. I don't want to be fated, I want to choose.”