“Fussing over children who cry only encourages them. That's positive reinforcement for negative behavior.”

“Do not focus on your failings, for you will only encourage them. If you keep beating yourself up on the head over these, you will only reinforce them.”

“It is easier for most of us to affirm positive behavior than to deal with negative behavior in a positive way.”

“Look for the positive qualities in your client's negative behavior.”

“Western parents try to respect their children’s individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they’re capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits, and inner confidence that no one can ever take away.”

“Accentuate the positive - eliminate the negative. And only the negative.”