“A terrible feeling of loneliness besieged her, so strong it was almost like physical pain...”

“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”

“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”

“You American intellectuals—you want so desperately to feel besieged and persecuted!”

“But feelings, no matter how strong or “ugly,” are not a part of who you are. They are the radio stations your mind listens to if you don’t give it something better to do. Feelings are fluid and dynamic; they change frequently.Feelings are something you HAVE, not something you ARE. Like physical beauty, a cold sore, or an opinion.Admitting you feel rage or terrible pain or regret or some old, rotten blame does not mean these feelings are part of who you are as a person. What these feelings mean is, you have to change your thinking to be free of them.”

“She felt so much emotionally, she would say, that a physical outlet - physical pain - was the only way to make her internal pain go away. It was the only way she could control it.”