“You can't walk on water holding all that weight, it just makes you sink right down. Let it go.”

“Grief is like sinking, like being buried. I am in water the tawny color of kicked-up dirt. Every breath is full of choking. There is nothing to hold on to, no sides, no way to claw myself up. There is nothing to do but let go.Let go. Feel the weight all around you, feel the squeezing of your lungs, the slow, low pressure. Let yourself go deeper. There is nothing but bottom. There is nothing but the taste of metal, and the echoes of old things, and days that look like darkness.”

“You can't let God down because you are not the one holding him up”

“If you want a revenge, don't hold it. It poisons you.Either you just let the grudge go, or make him chary.”

“you can't hold on and let go to (at the sametime) of you worthless, unhappy, failing relationship”

“Darkness does this. It finds all the places you are hiding in. It finds all the things you are holding onto tightly and makes you let go.”