“If you just communicate, you can get by. But if you communicate skillfully, you can work miracles.”

“Communication is a skill that you can learn. It's like riding a bicycle or typing. If you're willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of very part of your life.”

“If someone were to ask whether communications skills or meekness is most important to a marriage, I'd answer meekness, hands down. You can be a superb communicator but still never have the humility to ask, 'Is it I?' Communication skills are no substitute for Christlike attributes. As Dr. Douglas Brinley has observed, 'Without theological perspectives, secular exercises designed to improve our relationship and our communication skills (the common tools of counselors and marriage books) will never work any permanent change in one's heart: they simply develop more clever and skilled fighters!”

“There is no amount of communication or work that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.”

“Assuming you can write clear English sentences, give up all worry about communication. If you want to communicate, use the telephone.”

“Love yourself enough to give what matters every chance of working by communicating as well as you possibly can, and trying for as long as you wish.”