“The best parenting advice I ever got was from a labor nurse who told me the following:1. After your baby gets here, the dog will just be a dog.2. The terrible twos last through age three.3. Never ask your child an open-ended question, such as "Do you want to go to bed now?" You won't want to hear the answer, believe me. "Do you want me to carry you upstairs, or do you want to walk upstairs to go to bed?" That way, you get the outcome you want and they feel empowered.”

“ Where is this going to take me? she had asked. And Caleb's answer: Where do you want it to?”

“Although you hadn't asked why, it had less to do with you not noticing than with you not wanting to hear the answer.”

“But will you miss me? More importantly - will I miss you? Does either one of us really want to hear the answer to that question?”

“Sometimes to get what you want the most, you have to do what you want the least.”

“There's an honesty to the wolf world that is liberating. There's no diplomacy, no decorum. You tell your enemy you hate him; you show your admiration by confessing the truth. That directness doesn't work with humans, who are masters of subterfuge. Does this dress make me look fat? Do you really love me? Did you miss me? When a person asks this, she doesn't want to know the real answer. She wants you to lie to her. After two years of living with wolves, I had forgotten how many lies it takes to build a relationship.”

“well, sometimes to get what you want the most, you have to do what you want the least.”