“Feelings can have a life of their own and you have very little direct control over them, except perhaps to make them worse.”

“We are all hungry for love, acceptance and belonging. Rejection can still feel like death.”

“Happiness requires a balance. If you feel rejected, you need to pursue love with dignity. If you feel put down you need to restore your dignity in an attractive fashion.”

“The poorer your self-esteem and the lower your self-confidence, the more easily negative feelings can overwhelm ordinary good sense.”

“Once upon a time, loss of love, rejection, weakness and loss of territory all meant death. Now it just feels that way.”

“If you have wonderful moments, don't second-guess them, just enjoy them.”

“The writer has little control over personal temperament, none over historical moment, and is only partly in charge of his or her own aesthetic.”