“We are all hungry for love, acceptance and belonging. Rejection can still feel like death.”

“Once upon a time, loss of love, rejection, weakness and loss of territory all meant death. Now it just feels that way.”

“Happiness requires a balance. If you feel rejected, you need to pursue love with dignity. If you feel put down you need to restore your dignity in an attractive fashion.”

“The poorer your self-esteem and the lower your self-confidence, the more easily negative feelings can overwhelm ordinary good sense.”

“Feelings can have a life of their own and you have very little direct control over them, except perhaps to make them worse.”

“For if there is one lesson worth retaining from the travails of the Cold War and the miseries it brought in its wake, it is the folly of seeking simple answers to complicated questions. It is a lesson which governments still show no sign of learning.”

“we must be precise with love, its language and its gestures. If it is to save us, we must look at it as clearly as we should learn to look at death”