“You can't make yourself feel positive, but you can choose how to act, and if you choose right, it builds your confidence.”
“You can't choose your problems. But, you can choose how you handle them.”
“If you do choose to take action to help others, make sure you do it with no expectation of positive response from them. Do it because the act feels right. This will keep you from making more of a mess of the situation and your emotions.”
“You can choose your friends but you sho' can't choose your family, an' they're still kin to you no matter whether you acknowledge 'em or not, and it makes you look right silly when you don't.”
“You can't choose how you're born, but you can choose how you die”
“You can't make yourself fall in love, just as you can't choose who you fall in love with.”