“I marveled about our collective ability as women to keep all the pain hidden, just below the surface.”

“Keep looking below surface appearances. Don't shrink from doing so just because you might not like what you find.”

“Often secret desires as well as abilities surface in our dreams.”

“Women want everything of a lover. And too often I would sink below the surface. So armies disappear under sand. And there was her fear of her husband, her belief in her honour, my old desire for self-sufficiency, my disappearances, her suspicions of me, my disbelief that she loved me. The paranoia and claustrophobia of hidden love.”

“She felt happy these days, yet there was always an undercurrent of sadness just below the surface”

“Our memory is made up of our individual memories and our collective memories. The two are intimately linked. And history is our collective memory. If our collective memory is taken from us - is rewritten - we lose the ability to sustain our true selves.”