“didn’t want to hurt you and I didn’t want to wreck my life and I did both and I’m sorry I was ever born, and will you please sit down here and let me hold you for a minute, because I don’t think I can make it without you”

“I know you're not looking for a relationship, or even a fuck buddy, but...are you looking for anything that I can be?”

“That's part of being gay, you know. It's not just who you want in bed. It's who your emotional relationships are with the other twenty-three hours of the day, whose arms you want around you when life hands you shit.”

“Hell, you’re the only man I’ve ever met that I would stand in front of a judge and say I’m gay for.”

“Sometimes when you live with one man for more than half your life, you stop really seeing him. Not stop loving him. That center-of-my-heart kind of love doesn't go away. But really paying attention gets submerged in the stupid details of day to day life.”

“Tony chuckled. “So how does my other underwear fit you?” “Like covering a banana with a Band-Aid.”

“Violence is about the attacker, not the victim. If you weren’t there, your attacker would have chosen some other victim. You are all real, good, and valuable people and you are entitled to be safe. And you are allowed to fight back, run, scream, get help or do whatever it takes to be safe.”