“Violence is about the attacker, not the victim. If you weren’t there, your attacker would have chosen some other victim. You are all real, good, and valuable people and you are entitled to be safe. And you are allowed to fight back, run, scream, get help or do whatever it takes to be safe.”

“That's part of being gay, you know. It's not just who you want in bed. It's who your emotional relationships are with the other twenty-three hours of the day, whose arms you want around you when life hands you shit.”

“Sometimes when you live with one man for more than half your life, you stop really seeing him. Not stop loving him. That center-of-my-heart kind of love doesn't go away. But really paying attention gets submerged in the stupid details of day to day life.”

“Ian willed all his energy, all his strength through that touch and into Chris. Take it, take everything, babe. I'm yours.”

“Tony chuckled. “So how does my other underwear fit you?” “Like covering a banana with a Band-Aid.”

“What's the rule for fighting? Hit the soft parts with your hand and the hard parts with a utensil?”

“didn’t want to hurt you and I didn’t want to wreck my life and I did both and I’m sorry I was ever born, and will you please sit down here and let me hold you for a minute, because I don’t think I can make it without you”