“If you control the cause you own the effect. If you don't, events will unfold like dominoes toppling and you will have no one to blame but yourself.”

“Do you hate the personwho tapped the first domino down?Or do you hate the dominofor not standing up for itself?And if you are the second domino,and you get toppled, do you hate yourself?”

“Control is as much an effect as a cause, and the idea that control is something you exert is a real handicap to progress”

“Free will doesn’t exist. Only the illusion of free will, because the causes of our behavior are so complex that we can’t trace them back. If you’ve got one line of dominoes knocking each other down one by one, then you can always say, Look, this domino fell because that one pushed it. But when you have an infinite number of directions, you can never find where the casual chain begins. So you think, That domino fell because it wanted to.”

“And that for every negative event or coincidence that has happened since, imagining that you triggered them, that you made them happen makes you feel like you possess a degree of control that you don't have.”

“The victim mindset produces a delusion of fault and blame that blinds you from the simple truth of cause and effect.”