“Men marry women who see through their bullshit, and women marry men they can't seduce, at least according to Lou. It's the only way you can live with each other over long periods of time and get things done, raising kids and buying houses and all the other nonsense of matrimony and human striving. To Judith, this was a depressing thought. She wanted to marry a man who was so crazy for her he couldn't see straight.”

“I'm getting married because it's time and I want to have a family." "No, that's why men get married. Women get married because they're in love.”

“Married women are far more depressed than married men -- in unhappy marriages, three times more; and -- interestingly -- in happy marriages, five times more. In truth, it is men who are thriving in marriage, now as always, and who show symptoms of psychological and physical distress outside it. Not only their emotional well-being but their very lives, some studies say, depend on being married!”

“...even if gay marriage were legalized there would still be gay men who didn't want to marry, gay men no other gay men would want to marry, and gay men who didn't want to leave the priesthood in order to marry.”

“It happens all the time in heaven,And some dayIt will begin to happenAgain on earth -That men and women who are married,And men and men who are Lovers,And women and womenWho give each otherLight,Often will get down on their kneesAnd while so tenderly Holding their lover's hand,With tears in their eyes,Will sincerely speak, saying,'My dear,How can I be more loving to you;How can I be moreKind?”

“I abhor men who cheat on their wives and despise women who sleep with married men.”

“...and in the deep, dreaming hours I am easily moved by the stories of the real men and women who have lived out their passions on a scale so much greater than my own. It is at night, with a book open and these noble ghosts rising from the page, that I believe most strongly in the grandeur of life and feel most alone.”