“Sometimes being a supportive friend to her mother is the only way for the daughter to get positive strokes from Mom. The daughter may fall into the friend role willingly, not even realizing there is something terribly wrong with the arrangement until much later in life.”

“. . . when a mother shares adult concerns with her daughter, a healthy dependence becomes impossible; the daughter feels insecure and alone because she has no parent on whom she can depend.”

“This sad, extreme example is more common than you might think. I have known daughters who felt tremendous relief when their narcissistic mothers passed away. They feel delivered out from under a huge burden, but guilty about admitting it.”

“Begin to assess your own parenting. Acknowledging the painful reality that it is impossible to be a child of a narcissist and not be somewhat impaired narcissistically. Anyone raised this way has probably acquired a few traits of narcissism.”

“Are there some things we need to discuss or work on together?" "Do you have pain from your childhood?" "Is there anything we can do about it now?" "Can we heal together?”

“Narcissists commonly cut people off and out of their lives due to their shallow emotional style of seeing others as either good or bad.”

“In My Daughter's Eyes LyricsIn my daughter's eyes I am a heroI am strong and wise and I know no fearBut the truth is plain to seeShe was sent to rescue meI see who I want to beIn my daughter's eyesIn my daughter's eyesEveryone is equalDarkness turns to lightAnd the world is at peaceThis miracle God gave to meGives me strength when I'm weakI find reason to believeIn my daughter's eyesAnd when she wraps her hand around my fingerOh it puts a smile in my heartEverything becomes a little clearerI realize what life is all aboutIt's hangin' on when your heartIs had enoughIt's givin' more when you feel like givin' upI've seen the lightIt's in my daughter's eyesIn my daughter's eyesI can see the futureA reflection of who I amAnd what we'll beAnd though she'll grow and someday leaveMaybe raise a familyWhen I'm goneI hope you'll seeHow happy she made meFor I'll be thereIn my daughter's eyes”