“It's not about who they think you are, it's about who you know you are.”

“It's not about who they think, it's who you know you are.”

“Freedom from obsession is not about something you do; it's about knowing who you are. It's about recognizing what sustains you and what exhausts you. What you love and what you think you love because you believe you can't have it. (p. 163)”

“... it's not about where you come from. It's about who you are”

“It's amazing how right you can be about a person you don't know; it's only the people you do know who confuse you.”

“And in the end, of course, a true war story is never about war. It's about sunlight. It's about the special way that dawn spreads out on a river when you know you must cross the river and march into the mountains and do things you are afraid to do. It's about love and memory. It's about sorrow. It's about sisters who never write back and people who never listen.”