“Impulsive isn’t something you choose. It’s something youare.”

“Love isn’t something you have, it’s something you do.”

“History isn’t something you study. It’s something you should just know.”

“If something isn’t working for you, then something else is working for you. Every situation is repairable if we choose not to be impaired or despaired.”

“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.”

“Toby liked to say he chose not to be impulsive. As if being impulsive were something you consciously decide. When I look at Starling, with her turquoise turban and wet knot of hair, and at Rowan, with his stack of cheap string anklets, I think: Impulsive isn't something you choose. It's something you are. Like gay, or freckled or bipolar. Something I pretend to be but am not. Not really. Not deep down.”