“When spiritual friends share their stories, the others listen without working. They rest. There’s nothing to fix, nothing to improve. A spiritual community feels undisturbed quiet as they listen, certainly burdened . . . but still resting in the knowledge that the life within, the passion for holiness, is indestructible. It needs only to be nourished and released.”
In this quote by Larry Crabb, he discusses the importance of having spiritual friends who listen without immediately trying to fix or improve things. Instead, they simply rest and provide a space for each other to share their stories. This creates an undisturbed quiet within a spiritual community, where members can feel burdened yet still find solace in the knowledge that their inner life and desire for holiness is unbreakable and only needs nourishment and release.
In today's fast-paced and chaotic world, the idea of finding rest and solace in a spiritual community is more relevant than ever. Larry Crabb's words remind us of the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space where individuals can share their spiritual journeys without fear of criticism or judgment. This kind of support can provide a much-needed sense of peace and comfort in the midst of life's challenges.
"When spiritual friends share their stories, the others listen without working. They rest. There’s nothing to fix, nothing to improve. A spiritual community feels undisturbed quiet as they listen, certainly burdened . . . but still resting in the knowledge that the life within, the passion for holiness, is indestructible. It needs only to be nourished and released.” - Larry Crabb"
Reflecting on the quote by Larry Crabb, consider the following questions:
How do you feel when you share your spiritual journey with friends? Do you feel listened to and understood, or do you feel like there is pressure to fix or improve something?
In your experience, what does it mean to truly listen to someone without trying to fix or improve the situation? Can you think of a time when you felt truly heard and accepted by a spiritual community?
How can we create a space within our own spiritual communities where people can share their stories and struggles without feeling judged or rushed to find solutions? What practices or habits can help nourish and release the passion for holiness within each individual?
“Men are easily threatened. And whenever a man is threatened, when he becomes uncomfortable in places within himself that he does not understand, he naturally retreats into an arena of comfort or competence, or he dominates someone or something in order to feel powerful. Men refuse to feel the paralyzing and humbling horror of uncertainty, a horror that could drive them to trust, a horror that could release in them the power to deeply give themselves in relationship. As a result, most men feel close to no one, especially not to God, and no one feels close to them. Something good in men is stopped and needs to get moving. When good movement stops, bad movement (retreat or domination) reliably develops.”
“We must admit that simply knowing the contents of the Bible is not a sure route to spiritual growth. There is an aweful assumption in evangelical churches that if we can just get the Word of God into people's heads, then the Spirit of God will apply it to their hearts. That assumption is aweful, not because the Spirit never does what the assumption supposes, but because it excused pastors and leaders from the responsibility to tangle with people's lives. Many remain safely hidden behind pulpits, hopelessly out of touch with the struggles of their congregations, proclaiming the Scriptures with a pompous accuracy that touches no one. Pulpits should provide bridges, not barriers, to life-changing relationships.”
“It is the understanding of others and the awareness of their needs, that the ambassador of CHRIST should strive to cultivate”
“Change from the inside out involves a steadfast gaze upon our Lord that's life changing because it reflects a deep turning from a commitment to self-sufficiency. Without repentance, a look at Christ provides only the illusion of comfort.”
“I assume the Spirit is always whispering, "Abba", to God's children, assuring them that they are safe in His care. And he is continually calling them to become what God saved them to be, solid people, indestructibly alive, hurting perhaps, but consumed with pleasing the Father.”
“I find it much easier to counsel than to be counseled, to reach out to a friend in my small group who is feeling insercure than to reveal my own inseurity. The truth is we don't much like being dependent. We don't enjoy admitting how depeately we long for someone's kindness and involvement. It's so humbling.”