“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.”

“I have known many happy marriages, but never a compatible one. The whole aim of marriage is to fight through and survive the instant when incompatibility becomes unquestionable. For a man and a woman, as such, are incompatible.”

“..it's not how much you work, but how working so much makes you feel that counts. And how I felt was iserable.”

“The marriage partner is not really the problem. No other person can ultimately make you happy. You must learn how to be happy within yourself.”

“Trying," he said at last, "is good. It always is. But failing? Everyone fails, one time or another. It's how you deal with failure that counts, in the end. It's the successes that you're known for-but it's the failures make you what you are.”

“It's not so much what happens to us but how we deal with what happens to us.”