“I realized I wasn't going to find a man until I was willing to expose myself to possible harm, to assume the risks of rejection and betrayal and heartbreak that came along with caring about someone. Someday, I promised myself, I would be ready for that kind of risk.”
“Being myself includes taking risks with myself, taking risks on new behavior, trying new ways of 'being myself', so that I can see who it is I want to be.”
“I might be manipulating you to create risk for myself.”
“I would rather risk rejection and fail, then never try, and live with regret.”
“If I reveal myself without worrying about how others will respond, then some will care, though others may not. But who can love me, if no one knows me? I must risk it, or live alone.”
“Every night I went to bed promising myself I would tell himgoodbye in the morning and leave. But along with the morningsalways came new reasons to delay that, new places to see. I knew Iwas only making excuses for myself, but there was no one toreproach me, so I figured it was OK.”