“A self is not something static, tied up in a pretty parcel and handed to the child, finished and complete. A self is always becoming.”
“A child is a part of the self, and of the loved partner; a representation of generations past; the genes of the forebears; the hope of the future; a source of love, pleasure, even narcissistic delight; a tie or a burden; and sometimes a symbol of the worst parts of the self and others.”
“It was mortifying to find how strong the habit of idle speech may become in one’s self. One need not always be saying something in this noisy world.”
“You bring up your children to be self-reliant and independent and they double-cross you and become self-reliant and independent.”
“There was something almost sacred in the self-sacrifice that I felt was required of me as a mother, caring for this child.”
“Hatred is always self hatred, and there is something suicidal about it.”