“Our lives should have depth, which means pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones and not taking the easy way out all the time.”

“When Pat asked me the life, he didn't mean just that I should travel and have fun, although that was certainly part of it. He also meant that there's a weight to all of our lives, and he didn't want me to be frivolous with mine. If was a tragedy that Pat's life - while fully lived - was cut short. But it's also a tragedy to live a long life that isn't meaningful.”

“[From Pat]I know someday you'll have the life you dream ...And, I know this direction will ultimately lead to happiness.However, despite what I know ...Regardless of our direction, dreams, or path ...I know we have each other and that I love you ...And that's all I need to know.Pat”

“Energy is what I had lived so long beside. Energy is who I had married - the energy that permeates life, that comes out of every pore and explodes into the world.”

“Anger can be a useful emotion. It can help you get out of bed in the morning;”

“He was all of those things, of course, but none of those things.”

“I like to believe I enjoy surprises, that I'm someone to whom an eruption of the unusual should be usual, or who branches out to advance the implausible. I might fly a jet, become a man, walk backward without a care, threaten like a stalker, speak freely at all times, swim the Atlantic on a greasy back, be silent for months like a Carthusian ...”