“We raise our children, especially girls, to ignore their spontaneious reactions-we teach them not to rock the societal boat...By the time she is thirty, the valient little girl's "Ick!"-her tendency to respond, to rock the boat, when someone's actions are really mean, may have been exciese from her behavior, and perhaps from her very mind.”

“I may not have been born captain of this boat, but I was born to rock it.”

“A part of a healthy conscience is being able to confront consciencelessness. When you teach your daughter, explicitly or by passive rejection, that she must ignore her outrage, that she must be kind and accepting to the point of not defending herself or other people, that she must not rock the boat for any reason, you are NOT strengthening her prosocial sense, you are damaging it--and the first person she will stop protecting is herself.”

“Just because the boat rocks doesn't mean it's time to jump overboard.”

“Trust her; we girls are two sheets short of psycho when it comes to our special little time.”

“Those who row the boat don't have time to rock it while those who rock it don't have time to row it.”